It’s Not About You: Why Some People Reject Our Help

It’s time to stop blaming ourselves for other people’s perspectives.

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Assumptions and Expectations

Recently, I offered advice to someone on a forum that encourages helping others. That advice was met with a very vitriolic response that left me wondering why I even bothered to try to help. His response annoyed me and left me quite upset. Once I had processed these emotions, I started to ask what I’d done wrong. I even came to the ‘conclusion’ that I wasn’t good enough to help anyone.

Purpose Makes Rejection Painful

Digging into my frustration about people shunning help has clarified my purpose. The frustration is actually an indication that I know that my purpose is to help others. When I’m not helping others, I feel misalignment with my dharma.

Victims of Our Circumstances

Those who post in a forum without wanting help, who are seeking to invite others into their ‘pity party’, are victims of their circumstances. I spent years being a victim, blaming everything and everyone (including myself) in my life.

It’s Never About You

The response to your advice is never about you. It is always about the person receiving it. And, get this, that’s whether their response is positive or negative! Our job is only to put the advice out into the world, to share what we are here to share. It is not our role to control how others receive those offerings.

Conclusion

It’s my purpose to channel the advice that I come up with and share it with those I believe will benefit. It is up to them how they receive what I am giving to them. Just because I received advice in the past willingly, it does not mean that anyone else should do the same.

Wellness podcaster and writer, and manifestation coach. Sharing my journey through life and the bumps along the way! Hoping you’ll come along for the ride!

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