Here’s Who You Should Trust the Most — and I Bet It’s Not Who You Might Think!

I’m working on trusting MYSELF — here’s why you should be too.

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The Old Stories

Have you ever met someone who struggles in relationships? When you talk to them, they tell you a previous partner cheated on them, and that they now know “men can’t be trusted.” I’ve had this exact conversation with more than one female friend. When you dive deeper, however, you find they’ve only been cheated on once — and that was decades ago. Yet every partner they have had since then “cannot be trusted”.

Why Do I Need Self-Trust?

Self-esteem and self-trust are linked, and it seems we cannot be confident if we don’t trust ourselves. Confidence is a core part of everything we do — relationships, work, parenting, and more.

Mutual Trust

In 1978, Brigham Young research found that the more you trust yourself, the more you will trust others. What I mentioned earlier about how we believe “men can’t be trusted” based on past experience works both ways. The original cheat now looks at his partners, knowing what he did, and sees them as also potential cheats.


Self-trust is vital to our emotional health. We cannot simply keep trying to get by in life without it, or without trying to increase it. I hope this blog helps you see how past stories are playing out in your life today — and that they need to be eliminated in order to get whatever you want in life.

Wellness podcaster and writer, and manifestation coach. Sharing my journey through life and the bumps along the way! Hoping you’ll come along for the ride!

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