Help Others By Helping Yourself: 5 Tips For Advice Sharing

We can’t help everyone, but we can help ourselves by upping our advice-giving game.

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1. OFFER Advice

I am guilty of assuming that people want my advice. This is not always the case, and I’ve found unsolicited advice-giving has not always served me (or the ‘advisee’)!

2. Help Without Opening Your Mouth

Maybe someone doesn’t want to talk about what they’re going through with you or anyone else. This is normal — we don’t all want to share our journey with other people.

3. They Want To Talk, But Not To You

Sometimes people don’t want to talk to those close to them about what they’re going through. They want someone independent — that’s why therapists play such a vital role in society.

4. Boundaries Are Your Besties

Whenever I used to hear the word ‘boundaries’, I would get very afraid. I thought they were about cutting people out of my life or being cut out of someone else’s. This is not the case.

5. Why Are You Helping?

It’s time to go deep and work out exactly why you’re offering help. What does helping others give to you?


We get to help people in many ways, often not even knowing when that’s happening. We influence others simply by behaving in a certain way.

Wellness podcaster and writer, and manifestation coach. Sharing my journey through life and the bumps along the way! Hoping you’ll come along for the ride!

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