It’s so EASY to convince ourselves we can’t ‘move’ forward. But we’re wrong. Every time.

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How often do you say, “I am so stuck right now.”

I get it. Sometimes life can feel like you are wading through treacle, feeling like you don’t have enough time, enough money, enough energy to do what you’d like.

It’s really easy to convince ourselves that we are stuck. I spent decades feeling that way, convincing myself there was no way out and no way forward. I was convinced every difficult situation I found myself in had no exit route.

But here’s what I’ve learned: I was not stuck. I have never been stuck. …

Everyone deserves our compassion, right?

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I’ve been struggling with something massive of late. It has felt incredibly testing, and yet to some it may seem trivial.

I have struggled with balancing my understanding of, and empathy for, those who chose to storm The Capitol, with my condemnation of their violent, murderous behaviour.

Every person who illegally entered The Capitol on 6 January 2021 was guilty of a heinous action. All of those rioters have blood on their hands, whether they were directly responsible for the violence and murder, or not. …

We are never going to share the same opinions with everyone we meet, but how do we find the common ground between us?

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It’s time to be more accepting of those who don’t share our opinions. I’m as guilty as anyone else of wanting everyone to think and feel the same way that I do.

But they don’t.
And they never will.

Our job on this planet is almost certainly not to change people into versions of ourselves. And how boring would that be, right?!

I’m sharing five top tips for creating more harmony. Whether you use these with those who don’t share your political ideals, or in situations of disagreement with your friends or family, these will create more love.

The world…

Where’s the line between hate speech and freedom of opinion?

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Freedom of speech has become a bone of contention. I found myself questioning Trump’s removal from Twitter — not because I want to read the lies and vitriol, but because I believe in freedom of speech.

If we cannot speak freely, are we truly able to live fully and authentically?

Until now, I’ve taken free speech for granted. I haven’t questioned it. I’ve never considered the difference between free speech and hate speech. Who gets to decide where the very thin boundary lies?

In the case of social media, the tech giants make the decisions, often via AI or algorithms…

Love your body to lose weight…

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In my previous blog, I shared how my relationship with my body is changing. I talked about the importance of developing a sense of positivity about my body, whatever her current size. I also shared that I had subconsciously been body shaming those who were sharing their body positivity on social media.

I was assuming other people were flaunting and revering their weight (not their body), whenever they shared a ‘body positive’ photo on Instagram. This was not only subconscious body shaming, it was also constantly telling myself that body positivity was a bad thing.

Since starting my journey of…

This is one of the most shameful blogs I’ve written, but the most important in my weight release journey.

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It has taken me 36 years to realise that I should be more loving of my body, whatever size she is right now. I used to think I would appreciate my body when the scales show X kilograms. Occasionally in my life, I reached that elusive ‘X’ number, and I still wasn’t happy.

I always believed that there was a magic number that would make me happy — I just had to find it.

I wasn’t grateful for all my body does to me. I wasn’t appreciative of her.

When Manifestation Doesn’t Work

2020 has been a year of transformation for me: I do…

We can’t help everyone, but we can help ourselves by upping our advice-giving game.

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In my last blog, I shared some of the reasons why people might not take your advice, however good or well-intended. Today, I wanted to talk about five things we can remember when offering our help to others.

We have to be careful we’re not giving unwanted advice, as there’s nothing worse than having vitriol thrown at us. When that’s happened to me in the past, I developed a strong resentment of the person I’d been trying to help. This meant that even if the person came back later wanting advice, I’d feel too enraged to offer it. …

It’s time to stop blaming ourselves for other people’s perspectives.

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Have you ever given someone advice, only to have it thrown back in your face?
I have.
And it hurts, right?!

I’ve been thinking about the reasons why some people reject our advice, and I wanted to share my thoughts with you. This is because I know that it can be painful when we know what would help someone, and they don’t do it.

Assumptions and Expectations

Recently, I offered advice to someone on a forum that encourages helping others. That advice was met with a very vitriolic response that left me wondering why I even bothered to try to help. His response…

I’m on a self-trust journey, and the benefits are too great for you NOT to join me!

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In my last blog, I discussed the importance of self-trust. Now, that’s all very well knowing we need it, but how do we develop it?

I see self-trust like a muscle, and want to share the ten things I’m now doing in my life to make it ripped!

One: Do what you say you’re going to do

This applies to yourself and other people, since even when we break our trust to others, we’re still knocking our self-trust.

If you do what you say you will, you’re going to be increasing your self-trust.

Two: Set realistic goals

How often are your goals so huge that you don’t hit them? …

I’m working on trusting MYSELF — here’s why you should be too.

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“Well, it could be chickenpox. Or maybe measles. Or smallpox perhaps.”
How much would you trust a doctor who examined a rash and said that?

You’d be hightailing it from their office for a second opinion, right?

And yet this is exactly how we often speak to ourselves.

I want to talk about trust, particularly self-trust.

A doctor who lacks trust in his diagnoses is not going to inspire trust in his patients. No one will seek his examinations, and his self-trust will drop even further. …

Jessica Wilde About Wellbeing

Wellness podcaster and writer, and manifestation coach. Sharing my journey through life and the bumps along the way! Hoping you’ll come along for the ride!

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