10 Ways To Increase Self-Trust

I’m on a self-trust journey, and the benefits are too great for you NOT to join me!

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One: Do what you say you’re going to do

This applies to yourself and other people, since even when we break our trust to others, we’re still knocking our self-trust.

Two: Set realistic goals

How often are your goals so huge that you don’t hit them? A goal-setting process is a commitment to yourself that you’ll achieve it.

Three: Keep a trustworthy inner circle

If the people around you are undermining your trust in them, they don’t deserve a place in your life. Boundaries are key in elevating your self-esteem, and surrounding yourself with people who fuel you is really important too.

Four: Self-compassion

I shared in the previous blog how closely tied all the ‘selfs’ are (self-love, -worth, -esteem, -trust, etc.). If we knock one of those, we knock all of them, so if you’re not gracious to yourself, you’re not going to trust yourself.

Five: Be authentic

I’ve been notorious for trying to pretzel myself into all the things I believe others want me to be. I reached the stage where I didn’t know who I even was, and self-trust was elusive.

Six: Focus on your strengths

I’m not saying to only do things that are in our wheelhouse: I’m unwilling to give up challenging myself. Like the goal setting, however, regular wins are important to building our self-trust.

Seven: Make decisions

I am notorious for asking for advice and doing what I’m told to. This can be useful, but a lot of the time it’s because I don’t trust myself to make the right decision. Of course, all it does is reinforce that I can’t trust my own thoughts, and must rely on others.

Eight: Detach from outcomes

We often tie our self-esteem, and ultimately self-trust, with the outcomes of things we do. For example, when I try to lose weight and don’t hit the number I want, I blame myself. My subconscious then hears that I can’t be trusted to lose weight.

Nine: Celebrate success

When did you last celebrate yourself?

Ten: Forgive yourself

This is something else we are often reticent to do, but it’s as important as celebrating the wins.


I am working on all ten of these things because I truly believe that trusting myself more will change my life. I want to become more aware of the areas in which I don’t trust myself, and start working on those.

Wellness podcaster and writer, and manifestation coach. Sharing my journey through life and the bumps along the way! Hoping you’ll come along for the ride!

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